The Truth About The “Hoe Phase”

Yesterday I was on the phone with my ex. He is happily in a new relationship that he was telling me all about. It was nice to here the excitement and the fervor in his voice as he talked about his partner. After he was finished he asked me about my love life and what it… Continue reading The Truth About The “Hoe Phase”

4 Reasons Why Black Queer Men Code-Switch

This week, The Advocate, a popular LGBT publication, posted an article about Insecure's newest ostensibly gay character, Ahmal (Issa's brother), and code-switching. When I seen the article come across my feed, I was glad that someone was finally addressing it. When I first saw the episode, I clocked the code-switching immediately and just knew that… Continue reading 4 Reasons Why Black Queer Men Code-Switch

Ask Avery: “Isn’t White Supremacy Just About Racism?”

A few weeks ago I wrote about respectability politics and why you won't catch me subscribing to them. When I posted the link on my Facebook, I put this as the caption: Afterward, I got a bunch of questions about why I link whiteness (read: white supremacy) with things like homophobia and patriarchy and etc.… Continue reading Ask Avery: “Isn’t White Supremacy Just About Racism?”

Pride and The Police

*singing* It's the most wonderful timeee of the yearrrr! No, it's not Christmas (which is also lit), but it's Pride month. The one month of the year (honestly, Pride celebrations start in April and go through Labor Day, but the official Pride month is June) where LGBTQA+ identifying folks come together and aim up our… Continue reading Pride and The Police

I Am Not Your [Respectable] Negro

So lately I’ve been accused of being “too harsh” and “too mean” to bigots by more than one person. The irony of the statement astounds me every time I hear (or read) it. Sometimes I reply to the criticism (if you can call it that), and sometimes I let it ride. But so it is… Continue reading I Am Not Your [Respectable] Negro

Signature Move: A Review

"That's not how it works in real life. People don't fall in love with strangers that change them." This is Zaynab's plight as she unwillingly sits in front of a Pakistanian soap opera with her mother. Zaynab carries a slightly defeatist (or realist, depending on your perspective) disposition when it comes to relationships. A temperament that many queer… Continue reading Signature Move: A Review

Blac Chyna and Covert Homophobia

We've seen this story before, it goes as such. Boy meets girl. Boy and girl have sex. Boy pisses girl off. Girl insinuates boy is gay. Internet goes crazy. Amber Rose did it to Kayne. Vivica Fox did it to 50 Cent. Karlie Redd recently did it to Yung Joc. It's the oldest trick in… Continue reading Blac Chyna and Covert Homophobia

Dear White Hollywood: This Isn’t About You!

I have never had a cinematic experience like Moonlight. People throw around the term "breathtaking" when they see a beautiful piece of art or an attractive man or woman, but there were certain moments in Moonlight where I literally had to remind myself to breathe. Moonlight, and for so many other Black, queer men, is my story. It's… Continue reading Dear White Hollywood: This Isn’t About You!

Giants Ep. 5 Recap

The mess continues. Let's get into. So if you remember where we left off last week, Malachi is heading home from his buss down appointment when he runs into two guys that proceed to rob him. One of the guys pulls out a gun when Malachi refuses to empty his back pockets. It turns out the… Continue reading Giants Ep. 5 Recap